Guide to Serving Food at a Funeral or Memorial Service

Guide to Serving Food at a Funeral or Memorial Service

Posted by Maria Kinney on Apr 04, 2023



When planning the food to serve at a funeral, it's important to consider the needs and preferences of the bereaved family and the guests. Food can offer comfort, bring people together, and even serve as a tribute to the person who has passed. Here are some general guidelines and suggestions:

1. Spotlight your loved one’s favorite food: Think about what they would like served or something that makes you think about them. Dig up their favorite recipe or get a dish catered from their favorite restaurant. This small detail can make the gathering feel more personal and heartfelt.

2. Keep it simple: Funeral receptions are not the time for elaborate or fancy dishes. Stick to simple foods that are easy to prepare, serve, and are cost-effective. A familiar meal is often easier for grieving guests to enjoy and appreciate.

3. Consider dietary restrictions: Be sure to offer a variety of options for guests with dietary restrictions, such as vegetarian, gluten-free, and dairy-free options. Clearly label all dishes so guests can make informed choices with ease.

4. Choose comforting foods: Funeral receptions are often emotionally charged events, so serve foods that are comforting and familiar, such as casseroles, soups, sandwiches, and salads. These traditional options not only offer warmth and ease but also meet the expectations of many guests during a time when familiarity can be reassuring.

5. Serve finger foods: Finger foods are easy to eat and can be served without utensils, which makes them a convenient choice for a funeral reception. Examples include fruit and vegetable trays, cheese and crackers, and small sandwiches or wraps. These allow people to snack and mingle without formality.

6. Don't forget dessert: Offer a variety of desserts, such as cookies, brownies, or a simple cake. Dessert can be a comforting way to close the meal and invite conversation. Make sure to label any desserts with common allergens or dietary restrictions.

7. Provide beverages: Offer a variety of beverages such as water, soda, coffee, and tea. If alcohol is being served, make sure to also offer non-alcoholic options. Warm drinks like coffee and tea can be particularly grounding during an emotional day.

Ultimately, the most important thing is to offer food that is simple, comforting, and accommodating to guests' needs and won't add stress to your planning. Some specific food suggestions could include:

  • A charcuterie board
  • Deviled eggs
  • Fruit and vegetable trays with dip
  • Sandwich platters with a variety of meats, cheeses, and vegetarian options
  • Soup or chili in a slow cooker
  • Pasta salad
  • Casseroles, such as lasagna or baked ziti
  • Finger sandwiches or wraps
  • Macaroni and cheese
  • Muffins or scones
  • Cookies or brownies